Saturday, December 16, 2017

Where is the Child?

We all talk about Christmas being a time for friends and family, a time for gifts, choice desserts and even new cars. Have you ever complained about Christmas being too materialistic? I know I have.  But we still spend too much money for presents (and sometimes even go into credit card debt) in spite of resolutions to cut back on the craziness.

I would like to briefly share what the birth of the Lord Jesus Christ means.  
The Bible is the place to look for who really is the Christ of Christmas. Christmas is about the birth of the Son of God.  As a nation drifts from what the Bible says Christ becomes more and more neglected. 

Luis Palau tells this illustrative story of this very problem:
"Many years ago a wealthy family decided to have their newborn baby baptized in their enormous mansion. Dozens of guests were invited to the elaborate affair, and they all arrived dressed in the latest fashion. After depositing their elegant wraps on a bed in an upstairs room, the guests were entertained royally. Soon the time came for the main purpose of their gathering, the infant’s baptismal ceremony. But where was the child? No one seemed to know.

The child’s governess ran upstairs, only to return with a desperate look on her face. Everyone searched frantically for the baby. Then, someone recalled having seen the child sleeping on one of the beds. The baby was on a bed, all right-buried underneath a pile of coats, jackets and furs. The very object of that day’s celebration had been forgotten, neglected, and nearly smothered!"

Truths about Jesus Christ Birth.

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1. It was a Messianic birth; Matthew 18:21 tells us, "Now the birth of Jesus Christ was as follows: He was the Logos, the Son of God who was born of a woman, and born under the law. As the God/Man, Jesus was the promised Messiah. The term Messiah translates as the "Anointed One."  Jesus was and is the anointed Prophet, Priest and King.  As a prophet He preached the gospel, As the Priest He offered Himself through the Spirit as a sacrifice for sin; As the Son of David He will reign  during the Millennial period      He now is on His Father's Throne.

2. It was a Virgin birth; when His mother Mary had been betrothed to Joseph, before they came together she was found to be with child  by the Holy Spirit. Joseph had nothing to do with the birth of Christ except to help Mary during her pregnancy. The virgin birth is miraculous and to deny it is blasphemy. The apostle John tells us that Christ was the Word of God (second person of the trinity) who became flesh and revealed God to mankind (John 1:1-18).
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3. It was a birth that was accompanied by angels; we know that angels are beyond numbering (Hebrews 12:22). The special angel called Gabriel appeared to Zacharias, the father of John the Baptist in the Holy of Ho lies. Gabriel  also appeared to Mary and told her that she would give birth to the Messiah (Luke 1:19).

4. It was a birth that made it possible for the God/Man to preserve the honor of womanhood that was lost in the fall. His birth was also the conduit where the Son of God could shed His blood for the sins of the world.

5. It was a birth which was achieved by a  sinless conception and It was a conception where He did not join himself to a man but rather to an impersonal human nature. He had a human body and a human soul. He leaned obedience through suffering (Hebrews 5:7-9). It was fitting that men should become adopted sons because of God's natural son.

6.. It was a birth which gave him human emotions; sorrow (Matthew 26:38), surprise (Luke 7:9), He felt agony (Luke 33:44), He felt desolation in the garden and on the cross where He, as an infinite person, bore the wrath of God (Matthew 27:45-46).

7..It was a birth which had human limitations such as the need to eat (Matt. 4:2); the 
need to exercise Matt. 1:26); and the need to rest (John 4:6).

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8.. Finally, it was a birth that fulfilled Messianic prophecy. Many prophecies were fulfilled while He visited earth.  Many  prophesies will yet be fulfilled and will be until the end of time. I ask you reader: Have you ever been saved by Jesus Christ? Have you experienced the wonderful cleansing and saving that is written about in this song?

You can have the most precious Gift of ALL gifts this Christmas season! Take some time to think of the Wonderful Savior who came and lived and died for you. The cross was always the point of His coming. Let's not leave Him under a pile of "things" to be neglected and forgotten; He, Who is the reason for our celebration, needs to be brought to the forefront of our activities with love and praise for all He has done for us. 
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Monday, December 11, 2017

Depression and Marriage, from the Wife's side.

A Dream Lost

“For My thoughts are not your thoughts, nor are your ways My ways,
 declares the Lord,. “For as the heavens are higher than the earth,
 so are My ways higher than your ways, and My thoughts than your thoughts.”
—Isaiah 55:8–9

"Robyn: “What Has Gone Wrong?”

“I can’t do it.”
“What do you mean, you ‘can’t do it’? You have to.”
“I can’t.”He looked at me with tears on his face; his hands turned upward. With a desperate, yet resolute shrug he repeated, “I just can’t.”

"What Marriage Was Supposed to Be"

On October 28, 1978, Steve and I made vows of love and commitment to each other. When we said those phrases about “sickness and health,” I envisioned carrying a cup of chicken noodle soup up a flight of stairs during the flu season.

For richer and poorer” meant “we probably won’t have a new car every year on a pastor’s salary.”
“For better or worse.” I guessed that had something to do with loving him before his morning shower. It all seemed simple enough. We were in love, and whatever happened, we’d manage it as a couple.

 At our wedding we lit one candle to replace our two individual candles. It was a beautiful demonstration that we were no longer two separate entities but now one unit, burning together, joined by God in magnificent marital “bliss.”

One of the things that attracted me to Steve was that he is a capable leader. He knew the Bible, and his life mirrored the things of the Lord. I was drawn by his wisdom, his sense of humor, and his sensitivity. For the first six years of our marriage, those attributes helped deepen my love for him. Along the way, God gave us three beautiful children. Steve completed seminary and a pastoral internship. He was ordained.
The preparations had seemed endless, but now we were ready.

What Marriage Was Becoming

So why, just two days before Steve’s final “candidating” visit to our dream church in central Florida, was I driving south on I-95 with our children asleep in the back seat?
More to the point, why was Steve flying twelve hundred miles north, alone and feeling desperate?
The big-picture reason for our sudden change in plans was that we live in a sin-cursed world and our bodies are subject to all kinds of disease. I didn’t see that big picture in 1985 as I drove along that highway. All I knew was that, somehow in God’s ultimate omniscient plan, Steve had developed something diagnosed as biological depression. This was not supposed to happen.

Stigma  and  Silence were  Still the Answer

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Depression is still  stigmatized. It was more so in 1985, when Steve first became frighteningly ill. The stigma was worse because we lived in the world of conservative Christians. We had nowhere to turn in our confusion, for the help from Christian brothers and sisters came in the way of opinions as to what Steve’s “real problem” might be. Suggestions ranged from bad water to demon possession.

Was  it the End  for Us?

I was just deathly afraid that my husband would never recover, that he might shuffle around an institution wearing pajamas for the rest of his life. I had just turned thirty; he was twenty-nine, and life as we knew seemed to have ended.

Depression Misunderstood

As a child, Steve had no symptoms of depression. He was not the type who fought to get out of bed in the morning. He was not moody or negative. He whistled and sang, trusted the Lord, loved his family openly, and walked with God admirably.

This man now told me that he couldn’t accept a call to become pastor of the church in Florida. I was beyond angry. I was dumbfounded. How could he not accept what seemed so clearly to be God’s providential direction for our lives and ministry?

The blog from above is taken from our book, Broken Minds Hope for Healing When You Feel Like You're Losing It.  It is published by Kregel Publications of Grand Rapids, Michigan.

It was just a few months ago that we celebrated our thirty ninth marriage  anniversary  The Lord Jesus Christ remains the Head of our home..

Remember, mental illness and depression are treatable! If you want to learn more of our story, please go to our website.
Broken Minds will make a good present  for Christmas. You can get signed copy from Robyn and Steve. We will only charge you $13 .00 for a brand new copy and $.4.00 for shipping and handling. If you give the person's address that you want to give the book, we will wrap it and send it to the person.(  U.S only).( ).You can buy on-line or by check, sending it our office, the address is on the above web page.

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Friday, December 8, 2017

What do the statistics say? part 1

Do Statistics Matter?

Yes they matter very march.  They help you to get an overview on what types of mental illnesses there are, and and how prevalent mental illness is. When we see statics, we don't feel that we are so alone in this world. If you are in school, these statistics below could be quite useful. If you wish to speak somewhere and the subject is mental illness, some of the statistics below will be a good starting for you. I have listed all the sources. These give the statistics authority.  I have divided the blogs on this subject in two parts. SB

Anxiety Disorders

Anxiety disorders include panic disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder, post-traumatic stress disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, and phobias (social phobia, agoraphobia, and specific phobia).
  • Approximately 40 million American adults ages 18 and older, or about 18.1 percent of people in this age group in a given year, have an anxiety disorder.1,2
  • Anxiety disorders frequently co-occur with depressive disorders or substance abuse.1
  • Most people with one anxiety disorder also have another anxiety disorder. Nearly three-quarters of those with an anxiety disorder will have their first episode by age 21.5 5

Panic Disorder

  • Approximately 6 million American adults ages 18 and older, or about 2.7 percent of people in this age group in a given year, have panic disorder.1, 2
  • Panic disorder typically develops in early adulthood (median age of onset is 24), but the age of onset extends throughout adulthood.5
  • About one in three people with panic disorder develops agoraphobia, a condition in which the individual becomes afraid of being in any place or situation where escape might be difficult or help unavailable in the event of a panic attack.12

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD)

  • Approximately 2.2 million American adults age 18 and older, or about 1.0 percent of people in this age group in a given year, have OCD.1, 2
  • The first symptoms of OCD often begin during childhood or adolescence, however, the median age of onset is 19.5

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

  • Approximately 7.7 million American adults age 18 and older, or about 3.5 percent of people in this age group in a given year, have PTSD.1, 2
  • PTSD can develop at any age, including childhood, but research shows that the median age of onset is 23 years.5
  • About 19 percent of Vietnam veterans experienced PTSD at some point after the war.13 The disorder also frequently occurs after violent personal assaults such as rape, mugging, or domestic violence; terrorism; natural or human-caused disasters; and accidents.
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  • Approximately 6.8 million American adults, or about 3.1 percent of people age 18 and over, have GAD in a given year.1, 2
  • GAD can begin across the life cycle, though the median age of onset is 31 years old.5

  • Approximately 1.8 million American adults age 18 and over, or about 0.8 percent of people in this age group in a given year, have agoraphobia without a history of panic disorder.1, 2
  • The median age of onset of agoraphobia is 20 years of age.5
Specific Phobia
  • Approximately 19.2 million American adults age 18 and over, or about 8.7 percent of people in this age group in a given year, have some type of specific phobia.1, 2
  • Specific phobia typically begins in childhood; the median age of onset is seven years.5 

Eating Disorders
  • In their lifetime, an estimated 0.6 percent of the adult population in the U.S. will suffer from anorexia, 1.0 percent from bulimia, and 2.8 percent from a binge eating disorder. 14
  • Women are much more likely than males to develop an eating disorder. They are three times as likely to experience anorexia (0.9 percent of women vs. 0.3 percent of men) and bulimia (1.5 percent of women vs. 0.5 percent of men) during their life. They are also 75 percent more likely to have a binge eating disorder (3.5 percent of women vs. 2.0 percent of men).14
  • The mortality rate among people with anorexia has been estimated at 0.56 percent per year, or approximately 5.6 percent per decade, which is about 12 times higher than the annual death rate due to all causes of death among females ages 15-24 in the general population.15
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)
  • ADHD, one of the most common mental disorders in children and adolescents, also affects an estimated 4.1 percent of adults, ages 18-44, in a given year.1
  • ADHD usually becomes evident in preschool or early elementary years. The median age of onset of ADHD is seven years, although the disorder can persist into adolescence and occasionally into adulthood.5
  • Estimating the prevalence of autism is difficult and controversial due to differences in the ways that cases are identified and defined, differences in study methods, and changes in diagnostic criteria. A recent study by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) reported the prevalence of autism among 8 year-olds to be about 1 in 110.16cc
  • Autism and other ASDs develop in childhood and genAutism is part of a group of disorders called autism spectrum disorders (ASDs), also known as pervasive developmental disorders. ASDs range in severity, with autism being the most debilitating form while other disorders, such as Asperger syndrome, produce milder symptoms.erally are diagnosed by age three.17
  • Autism is about four times more common in boys than girls. Girls with the disorder, however, tend to have more severe symptoms and greater cognitive impairment.16,17
Personality Disorders
Agoraphobia involves intense fear and anxiety of any place or situation where escape might be difficult, leading to avoidance of situations such as being alone outside of the home; traveling in a car, bus, or airplane; or being in a crowded area.5
Specific phobia involves marked and persistent fear and avoidance of a specific object or situation.
The three main types of eating disorders are anorexia nervosa, bulimia nervosa, and binge-eating disorder.
Personality disorders represent "an enduring pattern of inner experience and behavior that deviates markedly from the expectations of the culture of the individual who exhibits it."4 These patterns tend to be fixed and consistent across situations and are typically perceived to be appropriate by the individual even though they may markedly affect their day-to-day life in negative ways. Among American adults ages 18 and over, an estimated 9.1% have a diagnosable personality disorder.18 Several more common personality disorders include:
Antisocial Personality Disorder
Antisocial personality disorder is characterized by an individuals disregard for social rules and cultural norms, impulsive behavior, and indifference to the rights and feelings of others.
  • Approximately 1.0 percent of people aged 18 or over have antisocial personality disorder.18
Avoidant Personality Disorder
Avoidant personality disorder is characterized by extreme social inhibition, sensitivity to negative evaluation, and feelings of inadequacy. Individuals with avoidant personality disorder frequently avoid social interaction for fear of being ridiculed, humiliated, or disliked.
  • An estimated 5.2 percent of people age 18 or older have an avoidant personality disorder.18

Borderline Personality Disorder

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is defined by the DSM-IV as "a pervasive pattern of instability of interpersonal relationships, self-image and affects, as well as marked impulsivity, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts.”
  • Approximately 1.6 percent of Americans age 18 or older have BPD.18

Broken Minds will make a good present  for Christmas. You can get signed copy by both Robyn and me.  We will only charge you $13 .00 for a copy and $.4.00 for shipping and handling. If you give the person's address that you want to give the book, we will wrap it and send it to the person.  U.S. only.


1. Kessler RC, Chiu WT, Demler O, Walters EE. Prevalence, severity, and comorbidity of twelve-month DSM-IV disorders in the National Comorbidity Survey Replication (NCS-R). Archives of General Psychiatry, 2005 Jun;62(6):617-27.
2. U.S. Census Bureau Population Estimates by Demographic Characteristics. Table 2: Annual Estimates of the Population by Selected Age Groups and Sex for the United States: April 1, 2000 to July 1, 2004 (NC-EST2004-02) Source: Population Division, U.S. Census Bureau Release Date: June 9, 2005.
3. The World Health Organization. The global burden of disease: 2004 update, Table A2: Burden of disease in DALYs by cause, sex and income group in WHO regions, estimates for 2004. Geneva, Switzerland: WHO, 2008.
4. American Psychiatric Association. Diagnostic and Statistical Manual on Mental Disorders, fourth edition (DSM-IV). Washington, DC: American Psychiatric Press, 1994.
5. Kessler RC, Berglund PA, Demler O, Jin R, Walters EE. Lifetime prevalence and age-of-onset distributions of DSM-IV disorders in the National Comorbidity Survey Replication (NCS-R). Archives of General Psychiatry. 2005 Jun;62(6):593-602.
6. Kessler RC, Berglund P, Demler O, Jin R, Koretz D, Merikangas KR, Rush AJ, Walters EE, Wang PS. The epidemiology of major depressive disorder: results from the National Comorbidity Survey Replication (NCS-R). Journal of the American Medical Association, 2003; Jun 18;289(23):3095-105.
7. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, National Center for Injury Prevention and Control. Web-based Injury Statistics Query and Reporting System (WISQARS) :  accessed April 2010.
8. Conwell Y, Brent D. Suicide and aging I: patterns of psychiatric diagnosis. International Psychogeriatrics, 1995; 7(2): 149-64.
9. Kochanek KD, Murphy SL, Anderson RN, Scott C. Deaths: final data for 2002. National Vital Statistics Reports. 2004 Oct 12;53 (5):1-115.
10. Weissman MM, Bland RC, Canino GJ, et al. Prevalence of suicide ideation and suicide attempts in nine countries. Psychological Medicine, 1999; 29(1): 9-17.
11. Regier DA, Narrow WE, Rae DS, Manderscheid RW, Locke BZ, Goodwin FK. The de facto mental and addictive disorders service system. Epidemiologic Catchment Area prospective 1-year prevalence rates of disorders and services. Archives of General Psychiatry. 1993 Feb;50(2):85-94.
12. Robins LN, Regier DA, eds. Psychiatric disorders in America: the Epidemiologic Catchment Area Study. New York: The Free Press, 1991.
13. Dohrenwend BP, Turner JB, Turse NA, Adams BG, Koen KC, Marshall R. The psychological risk of Vietnam for U.S. veterans: A revist with new data and methods. Science. 2006; 313(5789):979-982.
14. Hudson JI, Hiripi E, Pope HG, Kessler RC. The prevalence and correlates of eating disorders in the National Comorbidity Survey Replication. Biol Psychiatry. 2007; 61:348-58.
15. Sullivan PF. Mortality in anorexia nervosa. American Journal of Psychiatry. 1995 Jul;152(7):1073-4.
16. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). Prevalence of Autism Spectrum Disorders―Autism and Developmental Disabilities Monitoring Network, United States, 2006. MMWR Surveillance Summaries 2009;58(SS-10)
17. Fombonne E. Epidemiology of autism and related conditions. In: Volkmar FR, ed. Autism and pervasive developmental disorders. Cambridge, England: Cambridge University Press, 1998; 32-63.
18. Lenzenweger, M.F., Lane, M.C., Loranger, A.W., Kessler, R.C. (2007). DSM-IV personality disorders in the National Comorbidity Survey Replication. Biological Psychiatry, 62(6), 553-564.

Monday, December 4, 2017

Is there a connection with sexual immorality and not helping homeless people?

In Sodom, those who were not in the mainstream were taken advantage of or ignored.

This is a repost

copyright, December  2017

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 Sexual sin was not the only sin of Sodom. When most Evangelicals think of Sodom and her sin, they think of sexual immorality. The Scriptures make it clear that the sexual sin of the city and its neighboring Gomorrah was very great (see Genesis 19). But according to God's prophet, Ezekiel, there was more that displeased a holy God than that particular sin. Ezekiel 16:49, 50 tells us,Behold this was the guilt of your sister Sodomshe and her daughters had arrogance, abundant food, and careless ease, but she did not help the poor and needy. Thus they were haughty and committed abominations before Me. Therefore I removed them when I saw it (NASB).

 The above Hebrew word for careless ease, shaquat, means to "be at quiet, tranquil, to be at peace." The Theological Word Book of the Old Testament states, “the word careless  ease in the Ezekiel text overlaps with the word 'security' (betah) which is a feeling of confidence." 

 Willful ignorance of the poor and needy
People in Sodom simply walked by the poor. The word Ezekiel uses in Ezekiel 16:49 for help, means literally, "to seize by the hand and set up again." In their insatiable lust and greed they did not reach out and lift up the sick, the afflicted and the poor. The word for "poor" means to find oneselfoppressed, afflicted and wretched. The word "needy" connotes having no clothes, no land and no food.These commands to help the poor, the weak, and the needy are through out the Old Testament.

Please also note that the prophet calls the nation of Judah, Sodom's sister.  The nation from which Jesus Christ would come was committing all kinds of the sins of the flesh and the spirit.  Their guilt was worse because they sinned against God's revelation, through the temple and the prophets and the written word of God.

Sodom had its good times; the best of times. Again like many today, they had the attitude of "Come on; let's party!" There was plenty of apathy toward the poor and needy in the city of Sodom and her daughter cities. Pleasure and the absence of pain were the ultimate objective of life for these cities. The outcome was an ethical and psychological hedonism at its worst. Those who were not in the mainstream were taken advantage of or ignored. Does this sound familiar to you?


End of the Year Donation
 It is time for an end-of-the-year donor letter. In the past we have received many  needed  donations in the months of November and December.   
Mental Illness in the United States affects one in every four people. Treating mental illness is expensive.  Most of our clients pay about thirty dollars an hour for Biblical and clinical Counseling. Many counselors charge anywhere from $100-$150 dollars an hour for counseling.  
Because of your gifts suffering people will be helped. We are a 501 (c) (3) non-profit -tax free  agency registered with the IRS. In our  thirteen years of existence, we have never turned any one away because of finances.This is true whether it is counseling, seminars, or support groups.  If you wish to give by check or through pay pal, please click on the following link.. below  Thanks SB